The Assumptions of Accidental Hoarders

“Of course they want my stuff!! Why wouldn’t they want it?” My generation and those older are getting rude awakenings when they realize that their children don’t necessarily want their stuff. Think about it. When you visit them where do you notice any vacant space just waiting for all that you plan to leave them? The Geezer and I did anticipate inheriting many valuable items from his parents’ estate and we made sure we had a house big enough to accommodate them. But our children don’t feel the same way. Just ask the major antique dealers. They will tell you that they can’t get the prices they once could for antique furniture because the younger generation doesn’t want them, with few exceptions.

I came across the term SOSOH’s in a book called Smart Moves by Carla Hannaford. This acronym stands for Stressed-Out, Survival-Oriented Humans, and that is just what the majority of the younger generation are.( By the way Smart Moves is not about relocating but about how learning takes place best when children and adults are able to move around rather than sit still.)

  • They don’t want your several tea sets because they seldom sit down together to eat a meal. They are more apt to eat out or order take-out.
  • They don’t want to lovingly polish mahogany or fruit-wood furniture.
  • They are likely filling their own homes with the things they have purchased and maybe even renting storage lockers to hold the overflow. It will come as a real kick in the head when the time comes that they have to handle the stuff in your house.

My whole purpose in writing is to bridge that gap between generations by getting older people to be pro-active.

On the other hand, with packrats, you have to convince them that a hearse doesn’t have a trailer hitch.

Harriet Vaughan

About Harriet Vaughan

I am a Senior Move Manager, working with Senior Citizens and their families when it is time to downsize or just make the home safer and more comfortable for aging in place. I help these people make decisions about what to keep, throw out, donate, or sell. I also offer workshops on "Getting Things Done When You Are Over 60". I write about how to overcome memory lapses and how to use your physical energy well. I have a degree in Home Economics from the University of Maine. I live in Coopers Mills, about 14 miles east of Augusta. I have been married for almost 50 years to my husband, Chuck Vaughan. Our business is called Legacy Years Transition Services.